Category Archives: Life Wisdom

Let Things Happen

Today, I will let things happen without trying to figure everything out.

If clarity is not available to me today, I will trust it to come later, in retrospect.

I will put simple trust in the truth that all is well; events are unfolding as they should, and all will work out for good in my life – better than I can imagine.


Live Life to the Fullest





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Posted below is a copy of “Thursday’s Thought”which is distributed by Grant Helgeson, at Westland Properties Group. It’s so good, I had to share it here.

If you really want to live your life to the fullest and realize your greatest potential, you must be willing to run the risk of making some people mad.  Whenever you move beyond someone’s opinion of you, they get upset because you thought more of yourself than they thought of you.  If you want to know just how much you can do, how far you can reach, how much you can stretch, you must be willing to leave some people behind.  You must be willing to do more, be more and have more than those in your present company have.  This does not mean you should compare yourself to them.  It means that you must be willing to step out on your own, try life for yourself and claim your divine inheritance without guilt.  If you really want to know who you are and what you are capable of achieving, you must be willing to live without the opinions of other people.  That means you don’t ask for opinions!  And when they are offered, you need not accept them.  In order to find your identity, your authenticity and a true sense of wholeness, you must develop your individuality from the wealth of information that comes from within you.  Of course others around you can give you effective feedback.  But you need not make it your gospel.  People may not like what you do, people may not like how you do it, but these people are not living your life.  You are!  Until you are willing to live beyond the opinions of other people, and without the company of other people, you will have no idea of what your life is all about.

You may have been holding on to other people’s opinions about you and doing your best to keep people with you and on your side.  Tell someone you do not agree with their opinion of you.  Then jump into the center of your own life and get comfortable being there!

If You’re Not Happy Today

There was a local grocery store cashier who was well known for the many buttons displayed on her work apron. Amongst the various slogans was one that read, “If you’re not happy today, what day are you waiting for?”

In Wayne Dyer’s early work he spoke about what he called “futurizing.” Suggesting that many of us are waiting to be happy based on “when” something might happen in the future, versus being happy today.

Chances are you’ve done this before. At some point in your life you’ve probably said, “I’ll be happy when__________.” It’s not unusual, but it’s based on two presumptions – that happiness is dependent on a future event, and that there actually is a future.

Dyer has also taught that, “The future is guaranteed to no one.” He’s right. There isn’t anyone who has that guarantee. Although we all must plan for things; when you are living “when,” you are not living now, which is all you really have.

Many people live for the future, but we know it might not arrive. So it’s best to get busy with living for today, and looking for happiness in the moment.

If you aren’t happy today, what day are you waiting for?

Your Life Changes When You Change

One day the employees of a large company in St. Louis, Missouri returned from their lunch break and were greeted with a sign on the front door. The sign said: “Yesterday the person who has been hindering your growth in this company passed away. We invite you to join the funeral in the room that has been prepared in the gym.”

At first everyone was sad to hear that one of their colleagues had died, but after a while they started getting curious about who this person might be.

The excitement grew as the employees arrived at the gym to pay their last respects. Everyone wondered: “Who is this person who was hindering my progress? Well, at least he’s no longer here!”

One by one the employees got closer to the coffin and when they looked inside it they suddenly became speechless. They stood over the coffin, shocked and in silence, as if someone had touched the deepest part of their soul.

There was a mirror inside the coffin: everyone who looked inside it could see himself. There was also a sign next to the mirror that said: “There is only one person who is capable to set limits to your growth: it is YOU.

You are the only person who can revolutionize your life. You are the only person who can influence your happiness, your realization and your success. You are the only person who can help yourself.

Your life does not change when your boss changes, when your friends change, when your parents change, when your partner changes, when your company changes. Your life changes when YOU change, when you go beyond your limiting beliefs, when you realize that you are the only one responsible for your life.

Take Action and Participate

We all have the tendency to slow down once in a while. We get tired of the grind and need some rest and recreation to reenergize ourselves. But we are also prone to hesitating, procrastinating and downright avoiding effort. Why do we do this?

There can be a number of reasons why we slack off, but it’s often our fears that hold us back. You might notice this happening if you trust more in the hope that things will just “happen,” rather than taking action and participating in our own success.

Along the way you will get tired, doubtful and even want to give up. That’s normal on the recovery journey. But you don’t have to fall backwards. You can pause, take a breath and trust yourself to do the next right thing. Even reaching out and asking for help is taking action.

When you take action and make a real effort, you’ll be more satisfied, learn some lessons and improve your chances for recovery and success in life.

Who’s to Blame?

We all do it – place blame, that is. Indeed it’s common for us to look for the fault of others whenever something occurs that we see as wrong, offensive or damaging in some way.

A lot of people blame their parents for what is wrong in their life, their bosses for their lack of progress, or society as a whole for more global “problems.” However, placing blame and fault-finding are of themselves to “blame” for keeping us as individuals from moving forward.

By placing blame:

  • We remain stuck where we are in life, and impede our own progress;
  • We shift responsibility away from ourselves and our own success; and
  • We become blind to solutions and possibilities for growth and change.

If you’d like to stop blaming, then quit focusing on who is at fault in every situation. Instead, look at what lessons you can learn from the choices that you and others make, and the consequences those choices create. This will help you be more accepting and tolerant of the imperfections that we all possess.

Let Others Count on Your Integrity

“Not everything that counts can be counted; and not everything that can be counted counts.”
— Albert Einstein

Most of us would agree that it’s important to tell the truth. Honesty and integrity are virtues that adults instilled in us as we were growing up. Even if our parents or other caregivers failed to live by these values, we still know the significance of these characteristics.

As people in recovery, we must embrace the concepts of honesty and integrity if we want the quality of our recovery to be genuine and fruitful. But as we’ve become adults, all too often we see the erosion in basic character qualities.

In the name of business success, getting what one wants, being right or winning at all costs, integrity and honesty are compromised if not completely ignored. Unfortunately, doing this is too easy for many people.

Have you ever dealt with someone who didn’t do what they said they were going to do? If you have, you know what a disappointment and waste of your time it is. It’s also a form of betrayal and undermines trust. Is this who you want to be, or with whom you want to associate?

We each have the opportunity to make positive change in our lives and the world around us. So, don’t use the lame justifications and cop-outs that so many others use. Stand up for integrity and honesty in yourself, and expect it from others.